We never get the truth unless we are there to witness it ourselves.

Sure the information about the husband came at an awkward point in the evening, and perhaps had your friend found out sooner he wouldn’t have walked with her at all and we never hear of it.

It sounds to me, however, your friend responded to the news that she was married with bitter energy.

One of the biggest complaints women have about meeting men is that they (the men) are too outcome dependent. They enter interactions with women with a particular goal or outcome in mind (usually sex). Then, when things start to look like they might not be going that way, men start to show their true colours.

Sure, even if a man has a chance at sleeping with his target, she will often still test him in ways to find out how he might react after receiving a signal that he won’t.

This woman could have just been enjoying the way she was FEELING while hanging out/walking with your friend. A sign, men will often take, as an indicator of interest. And perhaps it was.

We’ve all been there, though, in these moments of “right place, wrong time” or sometimes, even, “right PERSON, wrong time”.

This woman might have believed the circumstances were safe. Her new friend could have walked her home, or to the corner of her street, where they could have given each other that look of “maybe in some other life”, leaving only the ideals of the other hurt.

Your friend says that, instead, he “refused” to walk her home *because* of certain reasons. Reasons that he shared with you, but maybe he didn’t share it with her the same way. There’s a good chance that in a moment of “there’s no way I can sleep with this chick, so what’s the point?” he gave her sour energy stemming from the sourness of him not being able to hit his target.

So instead of being a gentleman, walking her the rest of the way while enjoying *the moment*, he walked away with his “being-a-big-baby-because-he-didn’t-get-what-he-wanted” energy.

And now to protect his ego, he would tell YOU about what happened but from a perspective that he could have NEVER been in the wrong, stating facts and positioning statements so that you take his side of things (which you should naturally feel obligated to do because of your friendship).

There’s nothing wrong with a married woman enjoying the company of another man. They hadn’t slept together yet. And I would agree that the hand-holding thing is speculative, no relationship had been established.

And there was alcohol involved!

Your friend displayed the characteristics of a “boy”. The developed spirit of a GENTLEMAN would have accepted the situation for what it was, kept a vulnerable member of the pack safe until she returned to her hut, and then later down the road enjoyed the fuits of her speaking very highly of him to her sexy single friends.

He thought only of himself, which I’m sure he made very obvious to her (though told you in such a way that it would make her out to look like the bad guy), and now he’s reaping what he’s sown.

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-Mauricio